
When one of my clients came to me, she was in the middle of her first summer post-divorce, and feeling stuck.
āI used to love summer,ā she told me during one of our divorce coaching sessions. āBut now it feels⦠empty. Everyoneās out having fun, going to BBQs, taking vacations, and I just feel alone. Even though I am invited, I feel like I stick out because of my divorce, so I just don’t go.ā
This is incredibly common. After a divorce, the change of seasons can hit hardāespecially summer, when life around us is filled with sun-soaked images of couples, families, and friends enjoying life.
But my client was ready to shift. Together, we created a simple, realistic plan to help her reconnect with herself and her joy. By last summerās end, she had taken a weekend trip with her sister, joined a local hiking group, and was back to savoring her favorite iced lattes at the beachāon her own terms.
You can do the same.

Why Summer Can Feel Hard After Divorce
š Summer brings long days, vacation time, and memories of past traditionsāmany of which may now feel bittersweet.
š It can feel isolating when your old social circles shift or when shared parenting schedules limit your time with your kids.
š If youāre still processing grief, itās easy to feel āout of syncā with the carefree energy of the season.
But summer can also be a time for healing and renewal.
Tips to Get Back Into Your Summer Groove
āļø 1. Start Small
You donāt have to fill your calendar with big plans. Start with one simple activity: a beach walk, an outdoor yoga class, an evening concert. Small joys build momentum.
āļø 2. Create New Traditions
Instead of mourning old routines, create new ones. Plan a special solo picnic, start a Sunday brunch with friends, or explore a new hobby.
āļø 3. Embrace Self-Care
Prioritize sleep, hydration, movement, and nourishment. And donāt forget emotional self-careāwhether through journaling, therapy, or divorce coaching.
āļø 4. Set Healthy Boundaries
If co-parenting stress is high this summer, remember itās okay to set boundaries. Communicate clearly and focus on your parenting time with presence and joy.
āļø 5. Allow Yourself to Feel
You donāt have to force happiness. Itās okay to feel sadness, anger, or grief. Let these emotions move through youāand know they wonāt last forever.
How Divorce Coaching Can Help You Shine Again
If youāre feeling stuck in the dark while everyone else is out enjoying the sunāyou are not alone.
As part of my services at OC Paralegal Service, I offer Divorce Coaching to help you:
š Work through emotional roadblocks
š Build new routines and traditions
š Regain confidence in your new life
š Learn communication skills for co-parenting
š Find joy again, one step at a time
You deserve a summer that brings light, not dread.
You deserve to enjoy life againāeven if it looks different than before.
š If youād like guidance, support, and tools for moving forward, contact me today.
Iām Karen Fischerāhere to walk with you through every season of your divorce journey.
OC Paralegal Service | Divorce Document Preparation & Divorce Coaching

